Don’t Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People

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It’s a great myth that we should never compare ourselves to others. How would we gain perspective, values, standards, ideas, ambition, or growth if we removed ourselves from our social context? The truth is there are healthy ways to compare yourself to others:

1. Compare for creativity, not looks:

It’s demoralizing to compare yourself to others at surface levels like appearance or outward success. Instead of asking how you can be like others, ask how you are different; compare to discover creative distinction not to conform. You can’t make any major contribution in life without understanding how you are distinct. You’ll access a new creative edge when you start looking outward and asking, “How would I go about that differently? What’s my perspective and how is it different? How could I add even more value in a unique way?”

2. Compare for vision, not followers:

Never evaluate yourself on the size of your friendship base or fans. If you do, you’ll always feel down noticing others have more than you. Instead, look to how others are serving, about how they’re shaping and moving towards a vision. When you meet people who want to make a big difference in the world, it makes a big difference in you.

3. Compare for growth, not achievement:

When you see talented people achieving the remarkable, it should inspire you to level up. If you can look at someone who is doing something better than you and it inspires you to grow, you have humility and you have a chance. If their success threatens you or causes you bitterness, you’ll never ascend.

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Brendon Burchard is one of the most watched personal development trainers in the world and a Top 100 Most Followed Public Figure on Facebook. Over 40,000,000 people watched his videos in the last 12 months, and over 20,000,000 see his posts every week on Facebook. A #1 New York Times bestselling author, his books include The Motivation Manifesto, The Charge, The Millionaire Messenger, and Life’s Golden Ticket.

At the age of 19, Brendon was in a car accident that inspired him to turn his life around and follow his dream to be a writer and trainer. He failed at first, going bankrupt as he strove to write his first personal development book. But by the age of 32, he became a #1 bestselling author and a multimillionaire as an early pioneer in the online education space. Since then, he has dedicated his life to helping others find their charge and share their voice with the world.

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