How Romantic Attachment Works

Some of the reason why we choose such unsuitable partners in love is that we aren’t trying to find someone who ideally suits us, we’re looking out for someone who feels familiar. We recreate in adulthood patterns of attachment that we know from childhood – and thereby often perpetuate cycles of suffering and dissatisfaction.
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“Konrad Lorenz, who was born in 1903 and died in 1989, was an Austrian ornithologist and zoologist who spent most of his adult life in marshes and wetlands studying the behaviour of greylag geese and jackdaws. What particularly interested him was how these birds seem to develop an attachment to their mother from within a few minutes of their birth, following dutifully behind her and obeying her guidance in matters of sheltering and feeding…”


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Elaine Song

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