The Hardest Person in the World To Break up With

The hardest people to break up with are those who tell us they love us while, simultaneously, not in fact behaving in a loving way towards us. They force us to eject them from our lives while denying us the sense that we have any right to do so. They say the right words without ever doing the right things. They play dangerously with our minds. Here is a short guide to extricating ourselves and saving our sanity.
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“Break-ups are almost invariably difficult, but that isn’t to say there aren’t different degrees of complexity at stake in different constellations. Nor does it preclude the existence of a cataclysmically painful but too-little known type whom we can call the hardest person in the world to break up with.
A relationship with them begins like this: you’re very drawn to them. Perhaps they very much attract you physically and their personality is compelling as well. You admire them and, in areas, feel a lot of sympathy for them too; there’s probably something in their past which really interests and touches you. You have no desire to break up, and in fact, you’d love this to last till the end.”


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